tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480426650939812220.post300096312509016600..comments2011-10-03T21:41:35.167-07:00Comments on Recovering Pessimist: A Godly SymbiosisGenevievehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12684137366987833774noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480426650939812220.post-27600620012244015732010-02-22T16:38:43.515-08:002010-02-22T16:38:43.515-08:00uh-oh... do i dare comment? i really don't wa...uh-oh... do i dare comment? i really don't want to stir the pot, but i have to say that some of the principles in baby-wise kept me sane. i truly respect any well thought out, caring and Godly efforts at parenting, and would not suggest that scheduled feeding would work for all, but it worked for us. i guess we actually tried a "schedule" approach realizing that there would be times when the "demand" must override. there were times when i had a hungry baby that wasn't "supposed" to be hungry yet, and of course i fed him. <br /><br />in my case i felt it was important not to use nursing as the "go-to" method for comforting or hushing a crying baby. the fact that a soothing voice, or a hug, or swinging, or a pacifier, or some other kind of distraction was employed allowed for my sons to receive comfort from the other people in their lives who love them very much and wanted to comfort and love them.<br /><br />on another point, i respectfully submit that "crying it out" worked for us. it happened once with both boys. it was about a 45 minute experience with both. while i was quite sensitive with the feeding schedule, nap time was not up for discussion. i knew that as fatigued as i was, my own health and well being lay in the balance. during both of those 45 minute episodes, i had a child that i knew was exhausted and stubborn. so, every 3 minutes, for 45 minutes or so, i would calmly walk back into the room, lay the child down in his crib, explain that it was time to lay still and be quiet, explain that i would let him know as soon as it was time to get up, and then leave the room. i never let either of them reach the panic stage of crying. i was always there to offer reassurance, but i also let it be known that nap time was mommy's decision, not theirs.<br /><br />i now have a 6 yr old who still naps as needed (as directed), and an 8 yr old who simply stopped needing to nap around age 3. he has had "quiet time" as needed (as directed) ever since. mine are not children who have "given up". they have simply been molded to fit into the requirements of our daily family life. they both understand that they are a very important PART of our family. a "part" but not the "whole".<br /><br />please understand that i offer these comments simply as another point of view, and though i may differ with the other readers, my intent is not to criticize.<br /><br />jennifer, thank you for a well thought-out post!db dennis waltriphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13115790237730376680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480426650939812220.post-40513528638602222172009-07-23T11:53:51.768-07:002009-07-23T11:53:51.768-07:00great words of wisdom. glad that you addressed th...great words of wisdom. glad that you addressed the need for authority/discipline... but that it is separate from nursing/comforting/not scheduling babe.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00464208961190088886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480426650939812220.post-56185732079954840082009-07-22T22:25:24.547-07:002009-07-22T22:25:24.547-07:00Oh man, nursing in bed saved my sanity. Its trick...Oh man, nursing in bed saved my sanity. Its tricky to learn, but when you learn it, the sleep returns! Isn't breastfeeding such a blessing? Moms AND babies get to sleep without the baby (or the mom!) having to suffer.Genevievehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12684137366987833774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480426650939812220.post-82926864090335547862009-07-22T21:02:49.839-07:002009-07-22T21:02:49.839-07:00I like & agree with your post. My son is 3 mo...I like & agree with your post. My son is 3 months old and I've been sleeping thru the night for a while now...'cuz we do the co-sleeping and he wakes & nurses whenever he needs. All I have to do is turn over & switch sides a couple times. Not for everyone, but works great for us. =)<br /><br />I'm a firm believer in the trust factor. We can help our kids to recognize our authority by showing them they can trust us to meet their needs.Skerribhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05707156860853749119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480426650939812220.post-4546343372478632012009-07-20T12:18:18.565-07:002009-07-20T12:18:18.565-07:00Thank you for this insightful post! I have been am...Thank you for this insightful post! I have been amazed at how little is communicated to new mothers about how breast production functions as I've talked to my friends. I will send them all to this post!<br />I have noticed with my own kids that when they fall over (I have one learning to walk and another who likes to climb) the best thing to comfort them is to nurse, even if they've just eaten. Their crying stops immediately.<br />Also, with regards to babies waking in the night, I feel it is imperative that they wake otherwise they are at risk for dehydration. If my 10 month old started to sleep 12 hours a night, I would still go in and nurse her at least once, just to protect her immune system.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15830762460491330372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2480426650939812220.post-33981902679404012982009-07-20T11:23:19.825-07:002009-07-20T11:23:19.825-07:00Thanks for your post. I found it via another blog...Thanks for your post. I found it via another blog or two (starting at SortaCrunchy). Anyhow, I had an every-hour nurser at the beginning as well as a poor sleeper. I tried to make Baby Wise work and praise God it was clear very quickly that it would not work for us. My pediatrician told me,"He seems hungry, I think you need to demand feed" and that gave me so much freedom. It was as though I needed permission to NOT have him on a rigid schedule. Taking that book out of the equation made me much happier. Still tired but much happier both in the short term and in the long run. At 9 months he still wakes up to nurse and because I said "goodbye" to that book, this does not freak me out. I cherish it.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08791670593960590002noreply@blogger.com